If you want to learn how to successfully approach women, then you're going to need to learn both the "inner" game - which is all about overcoming fear and building confidence - and the "outer" game - which is all about having the SKILLS and "lines" for the different situations you'll find yourself in. And where's the best way to learn to MASTER both? Glad you asked,
To answer your first question, about how to skip all the emails, calling, and "dating" and go straight to the bedroom...
Do two things:
1) Don't focus on "the bedroom." Focus on taking things to the next step...and the next...and the next.
2) As soon as you meet a woman, treat it like you're going on a date together.
Let me explain.
If you meet a girl you really like, spark some major chemistry, start kissing her, etc., you're probably going to get some resistance if you look at her and say "OK, let's leave your friends here and go back to my place so I can SHAG you."
That's just a hunch.
But, if you meet her, spark the attraction, start kissing, and then say..."Hey, come with me", and then take her hand and lead her to another part of the club or bar...or take her to the dance floor...or some combination...and then start kissing again...and then stop (two forward, one back)...and then say, "Hey, I'm going to this other bar, come along with me"...and then once you're there you continue, all the way until closing, when you say, "Hey, let's keep talking.. this is fun. Give me a ride home..."etc., etc., etc....
I think you can see where I'm going with this.
A woman wants to feel that things are developing naturally, not that you are just trying to get her into bed as fast as you can. If the evening unfolds in a normal, natural way, and you can progress from one level to the next, you'll do very well and go very far.
Why do you lead her to another part of the club, and then take her somewhere else?
Physically leading a woman is VERY powerful, and leaving together/showing up somewhere else together changes things. When you arrive at the new place, even though you're the same two people who just met, you're now TOGETHER at the new place. And when you suggest continuing to talk, and her giving you a ride home (or some variation), it's not like saying "Come shag me." You're making it clear that you want to spend time with her, and it leaves the possibility of ANYTHING happening open.
And as for the girl you met in the parking lot who emailed you a week later saying "Let's pursue a friendship first", what she was probably REALLY saying is: "I can't believe that I made out with you after meeting you in a parking lot of a liquor store. I'm not like that. So let's get together sometime on a more casual basis, and if you DO EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID WHEN WE FIRST MET I'LL PROBABLY WIND UP MAKING OUT WITH YOU AGAIN."
you may be asking; do I run like hell (in which case I hope I could get some suggestions on making an easy break since we have the same friends), or work on my seduction techniques with her?
Don't talk to her for a few days. Then, call her up and say "What are you doing RIGHT NOW?...I think you should come over and hang out with me." Call on a Saturday or Sunday around noon. If she comes over, immediately LEAVE after she arrives. Go have a cup of tea, do some window shopping, and DON'T cling to her, look at her too much, or act like you are feeling attracted to her. Lean back. Tease her a lot. Tell her how she's screwing up her chances with you, etc.
Finally, once you get back to your place, proceed with The Kiss Test...and you'll be fine from there. You need to relax. Don't run like hell, and don't get so hung up on this one girl. We guys always want the one we can't have... and it's a problem. Stay on track improving yourself, meeting other women, etc. That's the way.
Thursday 5 May 2011
Wednesday 20 April 2011
Total Game-Changers To TURBOCHARGE Your Success With Women
There are a couple magic skills that ALL men need (but most men totally LACK) if they want to experience mind-blowing success with women.
In fact, mastering these skills is the *ONLY* way to get effortless results with women like real men do. Want to acquire these magic skills for yourself?
Hey friends,
I have a tough question for you, but I want you to be brutally honest when you answer...
Do you constantly find yourself thinking, I wish I could change just about EVERYTHING about how I THINK, FEEL, and ACT around women? If so -- I can practically GUARANTEE that your NEXT thought usually goes something like this:
I don't have a chance in hell...I am who I am, and there's no way things will ever change for me...If this sounds familiar, listen up...there's something I want you to understand before you finish reading this newsletter today: It's that you're absolutely *RIGHT*.
The sad truth is...any man who constantly dreams and wishes that he could feel and act more like a real man with women will NEVER, EVER succeed with women. Ouch, right? And I know...it sounds brutal to say, but stay with me, because I'm going somewhere with this... Somewhere I think you're going to find *very* EXCITING...
I'm here to say that, while you may be correct about your current situation when it comes to women and dating....the EXCUSES you keep telling yourself to explain your failures are *TOTALLY WRONG*.
And guess what: This is GREAT NEWS for you.
Why, you ask?
It's because the *REAL* reasons behind your failures with women are actually INCREDIBLY EASY TO FIX....once you know what they really ARE, that is. In fact, I'll go so far as to make a startling prediction right now:
I'll predict that once you know the REAL reasons behind your fears, failures, and setbacks with women, you'll do something before this day is over to start CHANGING YOUR WHOLE LIFE.
And no...I am NOT talking about scheduling plastic surgery to look like Johnny Depp...or robbing a bank for his movie-star money, here. Like I've said so many times before... high-quality women do *NOT* feel the magical emotion of ATTRACTION for a man because of his LOOKS or his MONEY. Period. End of story.
That in mind, on to... TOTAL GAME-CHANGERS *GUARANTEED* TO TURBOCHARGE YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN!
Sound like something you'd be interested in? Thought so.
So, without further delay, let's get to them...
First up, GAME-CHANGER #1:
LEARNING HOW TO TAKE A PERMANENT VACATION FROM ALL YOUR FEARS AND PAST FAILURES WITH WOMEN.
Basically, what I'm talking about here is taking a desperately needed spring break this year from the anxiety and nervousness you feel at the mere THOUGHT of approaching a beautiful woman. And, to start you on your way RIGHT NOW, I want you to try something...I want you to think about some of the other guys you know and see every day in life.
These guys could be buddies...they could be your relatives or coworkers...whatever. Next I want you to think about their different levels of MOTIVATION to succeed and enjoy life.
You see, all men exhibit different LEVELS OF ENERGY...different DRIVES TO SUCCEED in life and love. In other words:
Every guy you know behaves differently (or does absolutely nothing at all!) when it comes to TAKING ACTION to achieve his dreams. I usually think about it like trying to start a car...Every car is roughly 4000 pieces of metal and plastic...adding up to THOUSANDS of pounds...all powered by a complicated MOTOR that's SUPPOSED to generate MASSIVE HORSEPOWER.
Yet none of this machinery will start (let alone move an inch in any direction) without one CRITICAL, TINY OBJECT that weighs just a few ounces and fits in the palm of your hand.
Any guesses what it is?
I could play that annoying Jeopardy music if you like...Ok, time's up...
It's the IGNITION KEY.
And guess what: The same concept applies to every guy you and I know...ESPECIALLY when it comes to SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.
Basically, most guys ignore everything that's really wrong with the car instead of getting under the hood and GETTING THINGS FIXED.
Totally understandable, right?
I mean...look at all the DAMAGE that the car that is your life has collected over the years...It's probably been bumped and dented. It's been scratched and dinged. It's been abused and treated badly.
In fact, by the time an average man finally gets serious about meeting high-quality women, he's usually accumulated YEARS of this kind of damage....also known as the sum of every trauma, fear, and emotional injury he's suffered since he was a young boy. Add it all up, and what have you got?
What you've got are a lot of inner game issues -- problems that aren't visible to the naked eye, but that YOU, as a man, always feel and know are lurking there beneath the hood. It's the feeling you get every time you want something in life (like a great woman...a promotion...whatever...) but feel too nervous or insecure to go for it. It's the reason you chase the things you want at all the wrong times, or in all the wrong ways. It's why you wait and hesitate...missing out on opportunities to make your move in life...or totally blowing it when you finally do.
Most tragic of all:
None of this will EVER go away on its own. The damage just keeps racking up...getting WORSE every time you experience another painful setback, frustration, and failure in life. It's a vicious cycle. One that NEVER ends...especially when it comes to WOMEN. Which takes us to what you can do -- as in, RIGHT NOW -- to take a permanent vacation from the damage standing between you and NEW SUCCESS in life and love.
Look...
The REAL reason that most men continue fail with women (and in life) is because most guys are PARALYZED by all their damage. It prevents them from doing the 1 AND ONLY THING THAT MATTERS when it comes to escaping a personal prison made of fear and insecurity.
And that is:
LEARNING HOW TO THINK AND ACT LIKE A REAL MAN.
In other words, learning how to eliminate all the damaged, Wussy qualities that constantly sabotage your success in life....and replacing them with the qualities that all REAL MEN possess (and that naturally attract WOMEN and SUCCESS IN LIFE).
In fact, mastering these skills is the *ONLY* way to get effortless results with women like real men do. Want to acquire these magic skills for yourself?
Hey friends,
I have a tough question for you, but I want you to be brutally honest when you answer...
Do you constantly find yourself thinking, I wish I could change just about EVERYTHING about how I THINK, FEEL, and ACT around women? If so -- I can practically GUARANTEE that your NEXT thought usually goes something like this:
I don't have a chance in hell...I am who I am, and there's no way things will ever change for me...If this sounds familiar, listen up...there's something I want you to understand before you finish reading this newsletter today: It's that you're absolutely *RIGHT*.
The sad truth is...any man who constantly dreams and wishes that he could feel and act more like a real man with women will NEVER, EVER succeed with women. Ouch, right? And I know...it sounds brutal to say, but stay with me, because I'm going somewhere with this... Somewhere I think you're going to find *very* EXCITING...
I'm here to say that, while you may be correct about your current situation when it comes to women and dating....the EXCUSES you keep telling yourself to explain your failures are *TOTALLY WRONG*.
And guess what: This is GREAT NEWS for you.
Why, you ask?
It's because the *REAL* reasons behind your failures with women are actually INCREDIBLY EASY TO FIX....once you know what they really ARE, that is. In fact, I'll go so far as to make a startling prediction right now:
I'll predict that once you know the REAL reasons behind your fears, failures, and setbacks with women, you'll do something before this day is over to start CHANGING YOUR WHOLE LIFE.
And no...I am NOT talking about scheduling plastic surgery to look like Johnny Depp...or robbing a bank for his movie-star money, here. Like I've said so many times before... high-quality women do *NOT* feel the magical emotion of ATTRACTION for a man because of his LOOKS or his MONEY. Period. End of story.
That in mind, on to... TOTAL GAME-CHANGERS *GUARANTEED* TO TURBOCHARGE YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN!
Sound like something you'd be interested in? Thought so.
So, without further delay, let's get to them...
First up, GAME-CHANGER #1:
LEARNING HOW TO TAKE A PERMANENT VACATION FROM ALL YOUR FEARS AND PAST FAILURES WITH WOMEN.
Basically, what I'm talking about here is taking a desperately needed spring break this year from the anxiety and nervousness you feel at the mere THOUGHT of approaching a beautiful woman. And, to start you on your way RIGHT NOW, I want you to try something...I want you to think about some of the other guys you know and see every day in life.
These guys could be buddies...they could be your relatives or coworkers...whatever. Next I want you to think about their different levels of MOTIVATION to succeed and enjoy life.
You see, all men exhibit different LEVELS OF ENERGY...different DRIVES TO SUCCEED in life and love. In other words:
Every guy you know behaves differently (or does absolutely nothing at all!) when it comes to TAKING ACTION to achieve his dreams. I usually think about it like trying to start a car...Every car is roughly 4000 pieces of metal and plastic...adding up to THOUSANDS of pounds...all powered by a complicated MOTOR that's SUPPOSED to generate MASSIVE HORSEPOWER.
Yet none of this machinery will start (let alone move an inch in any direction) without one CRITICAL, TINY OBJECT that weighs just a few ounces and fits in the palm of your hand.
Any guesses what it is?
I could play that annoying Jeopardy music if you like...Ok, time's up...
It's the IGNITION KEY.
And guess what: The same concept applies to every guy you and I know...ESPECIALLY when it comes to SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.
Basically, most guys ignore everything that's really wrong with the car instead of getting under the hood and GETTING THINGS FIXED.
Totally understandable, right?
I mean...look at all the DAMAGE that the car that is your life has collected over the years...It's probably been bumped and dented. It's been scratched and dinged. It's been abused and treated badly.
In fact, by the time an average man finally gets serious about meeting high-quality women, he's usually accumulated YEARS of this kind of damage....also known as the sum of every trauma, fear, and emotional injury he's suffered since he was a young boy. Add it all up, and what have you got?
What you've got are a lot of inner game issues -- problems that aren't visible to the naked eye, but that YOU, as a man, always feel and know are lurking there beneath the hood. It's the feeling you get every time you want something in life (like a great woman...a promotion...whatever...) but feel too nervous or insecure to go for it. It's the reason you chase the things you want at all the wrong times, or in all the wrong ways. It's why you wait and hesitate...missing out on opportunities to make your move in life...or totally blowing it when you finally do.
Most tragic of all:
None of this will EVER go away on its own. The damage just keeps racking up...getting WORSE every time you experience another painful setback, frustration, and failure in life. It's a vicious cycle. One that NEVER ends...especially when it comes to WOMEN. Which takes us to what you can do -- as in, RIGHT NOW -- to take a permanent vacation from the damage standing between you and NEW SUCCESS in life and love.
Look...
The REAL reason that most men continue fail with women (and in life) is because most guys are PARALYZED by all their damage. It prevents them from doing the 1 AND ONLY THING THAT MATTERS when it comes to escaping a personal prison made of fear and insecurity.
And that is:
LEARNING HOW TO THINK AND ACT LIKE A REAL MAN.
In other words, learning how to eliminate all the damaged, Wussy qualities that constantly sabotage your success in life....and replacing them with the qualities that all REAL MEN possess (and that naturally attract WOMEN and SUCCESS IN LIFE).
Monday 18 April 2011
Historic story of Passion Sunday
Passion Sunday (Dominica de Passione)
[1] is a name that the Roman Rite liturgy gives to the sixth Sunday of Lent, but that in the pre-1960 form of that liturgy was given to the fifth Sunday. In that year, Pope John XXIII's Code of Rubrics changed the name of the fifth Sunday of Lent to "First Sunday of the Passion" (Dominica I Passionis),
[2] This brought the name into harmony with that given by Pope Pius XII to Palm Sunday, which in the Code of Rubrics and the 1962 edition of the Roman Missal continued to be called the "Second Sunday of the Passion or Palm Sunday" (Dominica II Passionis seu in palmis).
[3] Pius XII's change had thus given to the names of two Sundays, instead of one alone, a reference to the Passion.
In 1969, Pope Paul VI removed a distinction that existed (although with overlap)
[4] between Lent and Passiontide, which began with the fifth Sunday, a distinction that predated the 1960 Code of Rubrics.
[5] He gave Palm Sunday the official full name of "Palm Sunday of the Passion of the Lord" (Dominica in Palmis de Passione Domini), removing entirely from the fifth Sunday in Lent the reference to the Passion of Christ and transferring it exclusively to the following Sunday.
Those who continue to observe earlier forms of the Roman Rite or of liturgies modelled on it refer to the fifth Sunday in Lent by one or other of its previous names.
The entrance antiphon of the Mass begins with the word "Iudica" (older spelling, "Judica"). This provides another name for the Sunday: "Iudica Sunday" or "Judica Sunday" , in line with the name "Laetare Sunday" for the fourth Sunday in Lent.
Passion Sunday was called Black Sunday in Germany, because of the practice of veiling the crucifixes and statues in the church before Mass on that day, which was done locally in black, although violet veils are more common. This practice is not obligatory but may be observed if the episcopal conference decides; crosses remain covered until the end of the Good Friday celebration of the Lord's Passion, images remain covered until the beginning of the Easter Vigil.
The historical readings for this day are Genesis 12:1-3, Hebrews 9:11-15, John 8:46-59, and Psalm 43. I Corinthians 1:21-31 and Matthew 26:17-29 are alternate readings.[7]
The three-year lectionary appoints the following readings for this day[8]:
Psalm
A: 116:1-9
B: 51:10-15
C: 28:1-9
1st Lesson
A: Ezekiel 37:1-14
B: Jeremiah 31:31-34
C: Isaiah 43:16-21
2nd Lesson
A: Romans 8:11-19
B: Hebrews 5:7-9
C: Philippians 3:8-14
Gospel
A: John 11:47-53/1-53
B: John 12:20-33
C: Luke 20:9-19
The Lincoln Lawyer: A Novel
[1] is a name that the Roman Rite liturgy gives to the sixth Sunday of Lent, but that in the pre-1960 form of that liturgy was given to the fifth Sunday. In that year, Pope John XXIII's Code of Rubrics changed the name of the fifth Sunday of Lent to "First Sunday of the Passion" (Dominica I Passionis),
[2] This brought the name into harmony with that given by Pope Pius XII to Palm Sunday, which in the Code of Rubrics and the 1962 edition of the Roman Missal continued to be called the "Second Sunday of the Passion or Palm Sunday" (Dominica II Passionis seu in palmis).
[3] Pius XII's change had thus given to the names of two Sundays, instead of one alone, a reference to the Passion.
In 1969, Pope Paul VI removed a distinction that existed (although with overlap)
[4] between Lent and Passiontide, which began with the fifth Sunday, a distinction that predated the 1960 Code of Rubrics.
[5] He gave Palm Sunday the official full name of "Palm Sunday of the Passion of the Lord" (Dominica in Palmis de Passione Domini), removing entirely from the fifth Sunday in Lent the reference to the Passion of Christ and transferring it exclusively to the following Sunday.
Those who continue to observe earlier forms of the Roman Rite or of liturgies modelled on it refer to the fifth Sunday in Lent by one or other of its previous names.
The entrance antiphon of the Mass begins with the word "Iudica" (older spelling, "Judica"). This provides another name for the Sunday: "Iudica Sunday" or "Judica Sunday" , in line with the name "Laetare Sunday" for the fourth Sunday in Lent.
Passion Sunday was called Black Sunday in Germany, because of the practice of veiling the crucifixes and statues in the church before Mass on that day, which was done locally in black, although violet veils are more common. This practice is not obligatory but may be observed if the episcopal conference decides; crosses remain covered until the end of the Good Friday celebration of the Lord's Passion, images remain covered until the beginning of the Easter Vigil.
The historical readings for this day are Genesis 12:1-3, Hebrews 9:11-15, John 8:46-59, and Psalm 43. I Corinthians 1:21-31 and Matthew 26:17-29 are alternate readings.[7]
The three-year lectionary appoints the following readings for this day[8]:
Psalm
A: 116:1-9
B: 51:10-15
C: 28:1-9
1st Lesson
A: Ezekiel 37:1-14
B: Jeremiah 31:31-34
C: Isaiah 43:16-21
2nd Lesson
A: Romans 8:11-19
B: Hebrews 5:7-9
C: Philippians 3:8-14
Gospel
A: John 11:47-53/1-53
B: John 12:20-33
C: Luke 20:9-19
The Lincoln Lawyer: A Novel
Saturday 16 April 2011
How "Regular-Looking" Guys Attract Hot Women
Have you ever wondered how some "regular looking" guys manage to date so many attractive women... without spending tons of money or pursuing them?
I KNOW that you know what I'm talking about. We've all had one or two friends that were just ordinary guys...but they had a "magic touch" with the ladies. And even though they were just AVERAGE-looking guys, women always found them SEXY...and wanted to be with them "in that way".
Well, I honestly believe that I've unlocked one of the SECRET KEYS that these guys use. I call it "Power Sexuality", and I want to share it with you. Your sex drive is killing your sex life. The amazing gift – of a sex drive – that you were born with, has become your worst enemy. Let me ask you something…
Have you ever seen an innocent child chasing after a butterfly? Just as the child gets closer to the butterfly, and begins smiling because he’s about to catch it… he gets too excited, and moves too fast… and scares his prize away. And this is exactly what you’re probably doing with women right now. Innocently… and ignorantly… you’re pushing away the women you’re most attracted to… and, in the process, you’re pushing away your chances of having sexually fulfilling relationships with those women.
How am I so sure about this?
Because I did this exact same thing ALL MY LIFE. And it’s only now, after years of “self development” and learning that I’m able to see my past thinking and behavior for EXACTLY what it was… DESTRUCTIVE
You may have heard me mention this before, but I didn’t have my first girlfriend until I was 15 years old. Up until that point, I had gotten used to women not paying attention to me, and I just assumed that I wasn’t the type of guy that women were “interested in”.
I would hear stories about the other guys in my high school “hooking up” with the attractive girls… and, over time, I just got the point where I accepted the idea that those guys must have something “special” about them… that attracted women in a sexual way. The more these other guys “scored”, and the more I didn’t score, the more I affirmed that belief in my mind…But here’s the kicker: Just because women weren’t interested in ME in a sexual way… didn’t mean that I wasn’t interested in THEM in a sexual way. My desire was always there… hoping… waiting… praying for a chance opportunity to be with one of these seemingly out-of-reach beauties I saw all around me.
Now that I look back on it, I realize that the frustration that came from believing that I would never be successful with women… combined with my growing desire to BE with one of these women… ruled my “mental world”. I had no idea that I had the word “DESPERATE” written in big bold letters on my forehead. Women could see it… but I had no idea it was even there.
This “foundation” (if you could call it that), led to another set of problems as I got older…Because I secretly believed that women weren’t interested in me “in that way”, I always felt embarrassed, ashamed, and guilty about my desires to be with them…I could be talking to an attractive woman, and as soon as I started to think “Hey, this woman is hot…” I would become INCREDIBLY self-conscious.
All of a sudden, I felt like my thoughts and intentions were being projected on a giant movie screen right in front of the girl I was talking to. I felt like she could READ MY MIND. Worse, I felt like she not only knew what I was thinking, but she was probably DISGUSTED by it… and wanted to get away from me.
I mean, if you were an attractive woman, and a guy that wasn’t attractive in any way was talking to you… and thinking sexual thoughts about you… wouldn’t YOU want to get away as fast as possible?
I thought so. And, more importantly, I thought that SHE thought so. And again… now that I’m older, and can look back on this with experience… I can see that I was literally sabotaging my chances of success with these women. thanks for reading friends i will get to you later,
Yours faithful,
LEO.
I KNOW that you know what I'm talking about. We've all had one or two friends that were just ordinary guys...but they had a "magic touch" with the ladies. And even though they were just AVERAGE-looking guys, women always found them SEXY...and wanted to be with them "in that way".
Well, I honestly believe that I've unlocked one of the SECRET KEYS that these guys use. I call it "Power Sexuality", and I want to share it with you. Your sex drive is killing your sex life. The amazing gift – of a sex drive – that you were born with, has become your worst enemy. Let me ask you something…
Have you ever seen an innocent child chasing after a butterfly? Just as the child gets closer to the butterfly, and begins smiling because he’s about to catch it… he gets too excited, and moves too fast… and scares his prize away. And this is exactly what you’re probably doing with women right now. Innocently… and ignorantly… you’re pushing away the women you’re most attracted to… and, in the process, you’re pushing away your chances of having sexually fulfilling relationships with those women.
How am I so sure about this?
Because I did this exact same thing ALL MY LIFE. And it’s only now, after years of “self development” and learning that I’m able to see my past thinking and behavior for EXACTLY what it was… DESTRUCTIVE
You may have heard me mention this before, but I didn’t have my first girlfriend until I was 15 years old. Up until that point, I had gotten used to women not paying attention to me, and I just assumed that I wasn’t the type of guy that women were “interested in”.
I would hear stories about the other guys in my high school “hooking up” with the attractive girls… and, over time, I just got the point where I accepted the idea that those guys must have something “special” about them… that attracted women in a sexual way. The more these other guys “scored”, and the more I didn’t score, the more I affirmed that belief in my mind…But here’s the kicker: Just because women weren’t interested in ME in a sexual way… didn’t mean that I wasn’t interested in THEM in a sexual way. My desire was always there… hoping… waiting… praying for a chance opportunity to be with one of these seemingly out-of-reach beauties I saw all around me.
Now that I look back on it, I realize that the frustration that came from believing that I would never be successful with women… combined with my growing desire to BE with one of these women… ruled my “mental world”. I had no idea that I had the word “DESPERATE” written in big bold letters on my forehead. Women could see it… but I had no idea it was even there.
This “foundation” (if you could call it that), led to another set of problems as I got older…Because I secretly believed that women weren’t interested in me “in that way”, I always felt embarrassed, ashamed, and guilty about my desires to be with them…I could be talking to an attractive woman, and as soon as I started to think “Hey, this woman is hot…” I would become INCREDIBLY self-conscious.
All of a sudden, I felt like my thoughts and intentions were being projected on a giant movie screen right in front of the girl I was talking to. I felt like she could READ MY MIND. Worse, I felt like she not only knew what I was thinking, but she was probably DISGUSTED by it… and wanted to get away from me.
I mean, if you were an attractive woman, and a guy that wasn’t attractive in any way was talking to you… and thinking sexual thoughts about you… wouldn’t YOU want to get away as fast as possible?
I thought so. And, more importantly, I thought that SHE thought so. And again… now that I’m older, and can look back on this with experience… I can see that I was literally sabotaging my chances of success with these women. thanks for reading friends i will get to you later,
Yours faithful,
LEO.
Thursday 14 April 2011
Why Women "Run" From NICE Guy
When it comes to getting AMAZING RESULTS with women at bars and clubs, there are just 2 MAKE-OR-BREAK MOMENTS you need to master to SUCCEED LIKE A ROCK STAR.
But here's the kicker:
These moments actually occur *BEFORE* and *AFTER* you ever step into the room!
NOTE: One of the hidden keys to success with women is understanding the secret language I call "Sexual Communication." Learning it will give you the kind of success with women that most men only DREAM about.
I have a lot of guys who say, "I know this girl who's beautiful and smart and attractive. She and I are great friends, we have everything in common, and we get along perfectly...but she says that she's just not attracted to me..."
Have you ever noticed that:
1) The most attractive and interesting women seem to be attracted to men who don't treat them very well?
2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more she often seems to act like "just a friend" to you?
What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be "nice" to girls? Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident, and mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then you have to learn how to attract women with your personality. And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.
A while back, I read a book that was written about the band "Motley Crue." Remember those guys? Well, the book is called "The Dirt: Confessions of the Worlds Most Notorious Rock Band." As I read through that book, I realized that these guys have dated more of the world's most attractive women than anyone (except maybe Hugh Hefner).
In case you didn't know, the guys in Motley Crue are not very "nice." They're famous for taking every drug known to man, beating their women, fighting, and having a lot of people die around them.
Now, the first thing most guys say is, "Yeah, but they're rich and famous..." And this is true, they are rich and famous. But, and it's a BIG ONE...all of the women that they have dated, married, and beaten up are ALSO RICH AND FAMOUS TOO!
These are supermodels and playmates of the year and such. These women can date whoever they want. Tommy Lee was MARRIED to both Heather Locklear AND Pamela Anderson...remember? These women didn't need Tommy Lee for his money or his fame...they're dating these guys for some OTHER REASON!
Are you with me on this? So what's going on here? And more importantly, how can you use this information to be more successful with women and dating?
First of all, don't go out and start taking drugs and beating up your dates. I mean, I know that an occasional woman will drive a man to drink, but I don't recommend going "Motley Crue" on a girl...lol.
The first thing to you have to do is "Double Your Dating"
I believe:
1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has romantic potential, and once her decision is made, it's probably going to stay made.
2) These decisions are made "subconsciously," meaning that women make all of them quickly and at a "gut level."
3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings.
4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well...something else...and I don't mean "not nice."
So what DOES attract women? And how do you do it exactly?
At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities: Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.
Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that. Here's a good metaphor: Remember when you learned to drive? It all made sense...turn the wheel left and go left, turn it right and go right...
But do you remember when you learned to back up? Backing up was a whole new game. Everything that used to work now works in a different way. At first you feel disoriented. Turn the wheel left and go right...and you have to learn how to maneuver with the back wheels staying straight while the front wheels turn...all with your head turned around.
For most people, this takes some time and practice. But once you "get it" then you can do it anytime you want.
Well, women are very similar. At first it's very confusing. You have to try things that don't seem to make sense. But once you get the hang of it, then you see how it works and can make it work...just like backing up a car.
As much as many women would hate to admit it, there's something very attractive about a man who is just a little more confident than he should be. And if you combine this with the right amount of humor, you have a magic combination that will charm almost any woman.
Here are a few ways to use this idea:
1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about something. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you do it early on. For instance, you might say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?" or maybe "Those are some pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4' tall without them?" If you tease a woman, it shows that you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a fun sense of humor. KEY: Make sure you say something FUNNY. If you don't know how to be funny, get a book on it. The test: If she's not laughing, then it wasn't funny!
2) Look around at other things and seem kind of pre-occupied when you first start talking to her. Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached tone. You want to sound like you're talking to your best friend. Attractive women are approached all the time. It's not attractive to a woman when you look like you've just met Madonna. This "just a little too confident" attitude is very attractive to women...especially when it's combined with humor.
3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and "Where do you live?" and "Tell me about your family." Answer with funny answers, and don't give her what she wants. Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an engineer" or "I'm a stockbroker." BORING, BORING. If she asks what you do...say, "Oh, funny you should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein Underwear Model...What do you do?..." (This is especially funny if it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.
It's important to remember that I'm not telling you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm telling you to start being confident, funny, and mysterious.
I'm not kidding around here. You can try all the techniques YOURSELF...and if you will be THRILLED with it.
Trust me, and try and see...
I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
Leo.
But here's the kicker:
These moments actually occur *BEFORE* and *AFTER* you ever step into the room!
NOTE: One of the hidden keys to success with women is understanding the secret language I call "Sexual Communication." Learning it will give you the kind of success with women that most men only DREAM about.
I have a lot of guys who say, "I know this girl who's beautiful and smart and attractive. She and I are great friends, we have everything in common, and we get along perfectly...but she says that she's just not attracted to me..."
Have you ever noticed that:
1) The most attractive and interesting women seem to be attracted to men who don't treat them very well?
2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more she often seems to act like "just a friend" to you?
What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be "nice" to girls? Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident, and mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then you have to learn how to attract women with your personality. And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.
A while back, I read a book that was written about the band "Motley Crue." Remember those guys? Well, the book is called "The Dirt: Confessions of the Worlds Most Notorious Rock Band." As I read through that book, I realized that these guys have dated more of the world's most attractive women than anyone (except maybe Hugh Hefner).
In case you didn't know, the guys in Motley Crue are not very "nice." They're famous for taking every drug known to man, beating their women, fighting, and having a lot of people die around them.
Now, the first thing most guys say is, "Yeah, but they're rich and famous..." And this is true, they are rich and famous. But, and it's a BIG ONE...all of the women that they have dated, married, and beaten up are ALSO RICH AND FAMOUS TOO!
These are supermodels and playmates of the year and such. These women can date whoever they want. Tommy Lee was MARRIED to both Heather Locklear AND Pamela Anderson...remember? These women didn't need Tommy Lee for his money or his fame...they're dating these guys for some OTHER REASON!
Are you with me on this? So what's going on here? And more importantly, how can you use this information to be more successful with women and dating?
First of all, don't go out and start taking drugs and beating up your dates. I mean, I know that an occasional woman will drive a man to drink, but I don't recommend going "Motley Crue" on a girl...lol.
The first thing to you have to do is "Double Your Dating"
I believe:
1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has romantic potential, and once her decision is made, it's probably going to stay made.
2) These decisions are made "subconsciously," meaning that women make all of them quickly and at a "gut level."
3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings.
4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well...something else...and I don't mean "not nice."
So what DOES attract women? And how do you do it exactly?
At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities: Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.
Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that. Here's a good metaphor: Remember when you learned to drive? It all made sense...turn the wheel left and go left, turn it right and go right...
But do you remember when you learned to back up? Backing up was a whole new game. Everything that used to work now works in a different way. At first you feel disoriented. Turn the wheel left and go right...and you have to learn how to maneuver with the back wheels staying straight while the front wheels turn...all with your head turned around.
For most people, this takes some time and practice. But once you "get it" then you can do it anytime you want.
Well, women are very similar. At first it's very confusing. You have to try things that don't seem to make sense. But once you get the hang of it, then you see how it works and can make it work...just like backing up a car.
As much as many women would hate to admit it, there's something very attractive about a man who is just a little more confident than he should be. And if you combine this with the right amount of humor, you have a magic combination that will charm almost any woman.
Here are a few ways to use this idea:
1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about something. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you do it early on. For instance, you might say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?" or maybe "Those are some pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4' tall without them?" If you tease a woman, it shows that you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a fun sense of humor. KEY: Make sure you say something FUNNY. If you don't know how to be funny, get a book on it. The test: If she's not laughing, then it wasn't funny!
2) Look around at other things and seem kind of pre-occupied when you first start talking to her. Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached tone. You want to sound like you're talking to your best friend. Attractive women are approached all the time. It's not attractive to a woman when you look like you've just met Madonna. This "just a little too confident" attitude is very attractive to women...especially when it's combined with humor.
3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and "Where do you live?" and "Tell me about your family." Answer with funny answers, and don't give her what she wants. Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an engineer" or "I'm a stockbroker." BORING, BORING. If she asks what you do...say, "Oh, funny you should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein Underwear Model...What do you do?..." (This is especially funny if it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.
It's important to remember that I'm not telling you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm telling you to start being confident, funny, and mysterious.
I'm not kidding around here. You can try all the techniques YOURSELF...and if you will be THRILLED with it.
Trust me, and try and see...
I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
Leo.
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