If you want to learn how to successfully approach women, then you're going to need to learn both the "inner" game - which is all about overcoming fear and building confidence - and the "outer" game - which is all about having the SKILLS and "lines" for the different situations you'll find yourself in. And where's the best way to learn to MASTER both? Glad you asked,
To answer your first question, about how to skip all the emails, calling, and "dating" and go straight to the bedroom...
Do two things:
1) Don't focus on "the bedroom." Focus on taking things to the next step...and the next...and the next.
2) As soon as you meet a woman, treat it like you're going on a date together.
Let me explain.
If you meet a girl you really like, spark some major chemistry, start kissing her, etc., you're probably going to get some resistance if you look at her and say "OK, let's leave your friends here and go back to my place so I can SHAG you."
That's just a hunch.
But, if you meet her, spark the attraction, start kissing, and then say..."Hey, come with me", and then take her hand and lead her to another part of the club or bar...or take her to the dance floor...or some combination...and then start kissing again...and then stop (two forward, one back)...and then say, "Hey, I'm going to this other bar, come along with me"...and then once you're there you continue, all the way until closing, when you say, "Hey, let's keep talking.. this is fun. Give me a ride home..."etc., etc., etc....
I think you can see where I'm going with this.
A woman wants to feel that things are developing naturally, not that you are just trying to get her into bed as fast as you can. If the evening unfolds in a normal, natural way, and you can progress from one level to the next, you'll do very well and go very far.
Why do you lead her to another part of the club, and then take her somewhere else?
Physically leading a woman is VERY powerful, and leaving together/showing up somewhere else together changes things. When you arrive at the new place, even though you're the same two people who just met, you're now TOGETHER at the new place. And when you suggest continuing to talk, and her giving you a ride home (or some variation), it's not like saying "Come shag me." You're making it clear that you want to spend time with her, and it leaves the possibility of ANYTHING happening open.
And as for the girl you met in the parking lot who emailed you a week later saying "Let's pursue a friendship first", what she was probably REALLY saying is: "I can't believe that I made out with you after meeting you in a parking lot of a liquor store. I'm not like that. So let's get together sometime on a more casual basis, and if you DO EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID WHEN WE FIRST MET I'LL PROBABLY WIND UP MAKING OUT WITH YOU AGAIN."
you may be asking; do I run like hell (in which case I hope I could get some suggestions on making an easy break since we have the same friends), or work on my seduction techniques with her?
Don't talk to her for a few days. Then, call her up and say "What are you doing RIGHT NOW?...I think you should come over and hang out with me." Call on a Saturday or Sunday around noon. If she comes over, immediately LEAVE after she arrives. Go have a cup of tea, do some window shopping, and DON'T cling to her, look at her too much, or act like you are feeling attracted to her. Lean back. Tease her a lot. Tell her how she's screwing up her chances with you, etc.
Finally, once you get back to your place, proceed with The Kiss Test...and you'll be fine from there. You need to relax. Don't run like hell, and don't get so hung up on this one girl. We guys always want the one we can't have... and it's a problem. Stay on track improving yourself, meeting other women, etc. That's the way.
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